I attended a wedding just seven days ago, and it was an incredible afternoon and evening.
The design choices, speeches, and spirit of the event could not have been more bright and joyful.
I want to share one photo of the wedding flowers. They embodied this sense of joy; new beginnings; pure celebration, and shared love between the couple.
Babies breath, white chrysanthemum, and a light-pink rose represented these sensations. I was definitely grateful to be there.
But where is marriage going in the future? What stresses are there on couples, and how can these be understood and solved?
To start answering these questions, I wanted to share a short comic on marriage and relationships that was recently translated into English.
On their website, cartoonist and blogger Emma calls her comics “ugly sketches”. Regardless, the content presents a vital discussion about mental load and long-term marriage.
But you might ask, what is mental load?
It’s the finite capacity humans have for information processing.
Mental Load could also be called Cognitive Load.
John Sweller talks about cognitive load from a teaching perspective:
Humans have limited ability to actively plan, and acquire new information.
There is a finite amount of Working Memory available when processing information.
Exceeding mental load too often results in stress.
Ideally , problem solving, learning, and sharing of new information will not exceed cognitive working load (Solomon, 2015, Instructional Design).
In a long-term marriage, under the pressure of a society placing household management demands mainly on women – as Emma delineates in the comic – reducing long term marriage stress between partners flows from making a few societal changes:
- Manage toys and gender stereotypes given to children growing up.
- Encourage closer ties between fathers and their families by introducing more paternity leave options for parents.
Emma delineates more of these problems and solutions, on mental load and marriage, in their comic:
Source: You Should’ve Asked, by Emma